Stamps in your passport…

St. Kitts and Nevis

Currently I’m in St. Kitts vacationing and it got me to thinking about how many people would never think about coming here or about leaving the United States. This island is not as developed as a tourist destination as others in the Caribbean but it is filled with tons of history, our history (i.e Nevis had one of the biggest slave markets in the Caribbean). Princess Di and Queen Elizabeth have visited and vacationed here but sometimes we don’t feel compelled to do any traveling unless Jay-z or other rappers boast about a destination in their raps. Then that island or vacation spot is swamped with people who may not necessarily be concerned with the people or the customs.

Rumor has it, that some of these rappers, before they were enlightened, were not inclined to leave the comfort zone of America until someone showed them. As a community we tend to be insular and don’t take the initiative to look outside our front door of the possibilities that await us. Most of us don’t live the rapper lifestyle and our experiences may be very different from theirs when we visit the “trend spot”. However we want to say we’ve been to St. Tropez because Jay-z and Beyonce were vacationing there on bossip.com.  I wouldn’t recommend St. Kitts to anyone unless you are interested in mountain climbing, water sports, or just relaxing. There is definitely no major nightlife out here. However there are so many other places to explore and so many places to visit. I’m saving my pennies together for my “dream destinations”, Greek Isles, Egypt, Thailand, etc. There is nothing wrong with expanding your horizons a little. Strive to be the trendsetter instead of the trend follower! I’m sure you will be pleasantly surprised.

Check out http://www.loneyplanet.com and http://www.tripadvisor.com.

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The Aesthetics…

So I love fashion. Like a million other bloggers. However it’s all about the aesthetics. This fall there are so many ways to go. Here some of my faves.

Equestrian Chic 

Equestrian Chic Fall pieces

Hermes Evelyne Saddle Bag

Equestrian chic

Janelle Monae Equestrian Chic

 Leather Chic 

I’m such a leather fanatic. 

Rag Bone Leather shorts

Hermes Fall Runway

Balmain Military Leather Chic!!!

 More to come…

Unveiled beauties….

Paula Campbell

Known as Ms. Paula Campbell to most….. She is beautiful, talented, and an established singer/songwriter in the Baltimore area. When I first met Ms. Campbell, her doe-like eyes told a different story than her harsh reality. Growing up in the streets of Baltimore gave her an edge that is unknown until you start talking to her. The coarseness of her voice doesn’t match what you see. Listening to her, you realize her struggles and experiences gave texture to her pretty face and bubbly demeanor.

To Baltimore, she is “the Queen”, the woman who tells the stories from neighborhood sidewalks. It isn’t the prettiest but it is the “realest”. Young girls jump up when they hear her music on the radio because to them she is the concrete rose they strive to be. To them, she made it through the concrete jungle of Baltimore. To support and to listen to her new song, “Just A Man”, go to, http://paulacampbell.ning.com/ . I’m sure you can relate.

 

This Friday July 23rd, I have the honor of planning a birthday party for her. The “Queen of the DMV” will host a white party at the Roof Top Terrace.  316 Guilford Ave.

For tickets please email. Sdecaires@verizon.net . Advance tickets are $30.

Forsaking fidelity for the lifestyle…

The lifestyle...

Women act like they don’t know. Turn the blind eye. Ignore the signs. Are too scared of the reality. However the reality lies in the pit of your stomach. In the hairs on your body. In the doubt of your mind. It doesn’t go away if it is buried in the gifts or the children. To settle for less is to doubt your worth. Leaving doesn’t mean losing. S.P

Some of us have all come to the crossroads of being with a person just because of love or being with a person because of lifestyle security. The ability to have what you want when you want it is so appealing that it may skew your reality on situations. Every woman wants to be secure and every woman wants her “man” to provide and give her a comfortable home and lifestyle but I don’t think it’s for the sake of fidelity. We see television shows where the women put up with their man philandering but they have the hottest bag and the mortgage is paid. They are unhappy and miserable but still haven’t gotten up the enough nerve to walk out. They claim it’s love or the children but in reality it  is the bank account that keep most women quiet.  

He may not be home most of the time but their closets are filled with trends while their hearts are filled with emptiness. He may have chicks but they are the ones with the “ring”; a ring, but everything it symbolizes holds no value to him or to her. I’ve been there and a lot of my friends have as well. The fly guy who has all the cars, clothes, money, and most likely all the chicks and he’s not going to give that up to just be with you. He is just going to add you to his stable and make you his prize horse. At first you’re blinded by the whirlwind of the lifestyle because it’s all new and refreshing that everything is “taken care of”. Then the reality hits and you see everything that glitters isn’t gold. However you have become too addicted to the allure of that life that it’s hard to walk away and deal with a regular joe who may love you more but can’t provide the perks.

That is when the inner dilemma develops and you have to ask yourself what do you really value. Is fidelity that important or is financial stability more important?

I, myself, chose differently. It wasn’t easy because I loved him but I knew I loved my peace of mind more. I love to know my man adores me and understands how fidelity is important in maintaining a healthy relationship. I don’t want to hear his cell phone ring and he leaves the room or doesn’t answer it because it’s one of his girls. Your mind then wanders and you’re stressed for the rest of the night. I think there are more fulfilling things to do with your partner than that. I don’t condemn any woman who forsakes fidelity for the lifestyle. Our values are just different. But whatever they tell themselves to comfort themselves at night, I’m sure it wouldn’t take the place of the security of knowing that their man is just theirs. That security trumps the financial in my opinion.

Some of my favorite clients…

Geoffrey Canada and Mayor Stephanie Rawlings-Blake

A simple thank you….

Mario and Bea Gaddy Foundation

Carmelo Anthony and Mario

Ray Lewis and Wal-mart

Leaving it all on the mat!!

Hot Yoga

I hate working out!! I do it because I have to, I want to keep my physique, and I understand the benefits it has on my body. However I am not the first one to jump at the idea of hitting the gym. Then I discovered hot yoga (Bikram). The ability to burn the calories, cleanse the toxins, and restore your spirit from a grueling week was right up my alley. 90 minutes of up to 105 degrees of heat, difficult poses, and a not too pleasing aroma in the room. When I am finished, I am left with a feeling of calmness and rejuvenation that I hadn’t had when I walked in.

Just recently I started to do hot yoga again. I was so stressed I could feel it in my shoulders as I entered the room. I had my ice cold water, mat, and towel; the tools needed to make it through this session. By my 5th downward facing dog, sweat was pouring out of me and blinding me at the same time. I grabbed my towel and wiped my face. In “child’s pose”, I prayed to God and asked for guidance and forgiveness for all my sins that week. I felt all my emotions emptying on the mat and the thoughts that had drowned out my inner peace were being released. I felt at ease that everything was going to be alright and my life will be aligned again.

I know hot yoga isn’t for everyone because it is very intense, mainly mind over matter. However if you are person who is very in tuned with your spirit and believe that your mind, body, and soul need to be one for a healthy lifestyle then this is workout for you. You walk out a renewed spirit and with a feeling of accomplishment. You got pass one funk so the others should be a walk in the park. 🙂

 SP

Evolving with love!!

Girlfriends

My quote today was :

Friends come and go but true friends r the ones who are left standing by your side. Through the ups and downs, through the arguments, through the relationships, through the distances, through the tears, through the misunderstandings, and through rights and the wrongs, the love survives. Friends change because no one stays the same but the bond should never be broken. As we grow, friendships should evolve as well. -S.D
 
Friends are so important to the evolution of who you are. As I look back on time, there are friends that I have lost along the way that I regret. We may have grown apart or they may have hurt my feelings by an action and  it was hard for me to get past and rebuild. Maybe it was due to my lack of maturity or maybe it seemed at that time unforgivable because the trust was broken. I have like 4 or 5 people (guys and girls) who I am not friends with to this day but I love them the same from the last time we spoke.
 As I’ve matured I’ve realized things aren’t perfect and people make mistakes but love is love. It is constantly changing and constantly needs to be worked on. Misunderstandings happen and just because someone disappointed you it doesn’t mean they don’t deserve a second chance to make it right. Everyone makes mistakes for different reasons and most of the mistakes are made from people’s insecurities. Sometimes women are quick to forgive a man for his insecurities but aren’t quick to forgive a woman for hers. The love isn’t stronger. The man/woman relationship may be more intense and seem stronger but losing your friend in the long run will hurt the deepest.
I have one girlfriend who has defied the test of time for me. She never gave up on our friendship and she forces me to see that our love can stand the test of time. She has hurt me in the past and vice versa. She has been more emotional about her hurt, but my hurt from her has hurt me all the same. I’m one of those girls that have very close male friends and I realized why. Even though they are my rocks, they don’t make me tap into my emotional side as much. We look at things very logical and figure out all my problems from that perspective. My girlfriends make me delve into that part which makes me feel uncomfortable and weak. Being weak is the worse feeling for me. However, as I’m learning, there is nothing wrong with that. If we come from a position of strength all the time, how can we work on our weaknesses?
 Deepak Chopra says that the people  in our lives today are a reflection of who we are. Throwing away a friendship on a petty misunderstanding isn’t worth the loss. We all change and go through our tribulations and sometimes we make not like our friend’s trials and tribulations. It doesn’t mean we abandon them or judge them for their choices. For example, that relationship he/she is in may not be conducive to you having a healthy friendship with him/her at this time, but maybe there is a lesson he/she has to learn from that. Step aside and let your friend live her life! If your love is true, whether it survives or not, your love should stay the same. Sometimes we get too caught up in the situation being about ourselves. Life happens. Circumstances happen. And we learn and grow from it all.
Your friends are a part of you. When one is lost, you have lost a part of you. You have lost love. So don’t hastily discard it because of ego, disappointment, or circumstances. Stay true to the bond and the foundation will only be strengthened.
 

Here I am…

Sonje' Productions

Welcome to my blog!! First time doing this. I guess this will take you into my mind and oh, what a mind it is! Been a rough week, but I thought why not the best time to start this- when you are facing adversity in your life.

I have a facebook page and I kinda have a following. I start out each day with a thought-provoking quote and sometimes it’s mine and sometimes it’s not. It truly depends on how lazy I am.

Couple things about me….I’m a very spiritual person, I’m a “pescetarian”, and I don’t drink. I know I sound like a semi-saint but I’m not. I cuss like a sailor. Well I’ll try to be as diligent as this as I am with my quotes. My quote today was:

“If you love large, you’ve got to hurt large. If you’ve got a lot of light, you’ve probably got an equal amount of darkness.”
 
Why???
In my opinion, I have a big heart and when someone hurts it, I hurt hard. Someone (s) hurt my heart this week and I’m still licking my wounds. People like me go into a dark place sometimes and hide from the world. That is where we feel secure I guess. I know the light will shine again but right now I’m feeling comfort in the shade. 
Sonje’ Productions was born during my tenure as a morning radio personality and producer. I began producing events and working with several clients who were guests on my show. It blossomed from there and I have been able to work with wonderful clients like Ray Lewis, Mario, Geoffrey Canada, and Carmelo Anthony. They each gave me an opportunity to showcase my talents and I am thankful for them for that.
The reason for starting this blog was to give people like me who are products of the urban culture a place to enjoy or experience something new and refreshing. I love Salvador Dali to Young Jeezy; the hottest Louboutin shoe to cutest sweater at Forever 21. I am a producer of life, love, and hotness!! From my events, clients, and just everyday thoughts will be the catalysts for posts. So I hope you enjoy my blog and all that it has to offer.

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